Although i know that there is a whole lot of woman in this world wanted so much to have their freedom after they get married, living separately from their in-laws and being lovey-dovey with their husband, there is just some situation that you can't avoid. I try very hard to explain it to her and hope that she will understand, but it seems like i have failed to do so because she does not want to listen. She wanted to build her own family living away from her in-laws because she wanted to have some peace time alone at home and she also mention that she only want to live with her husband and her children so that the children can have more freedom like watching tv, playing and also studying. To me i don't see there is a problem doing all that by staying with the in-laws, in fact i see there is a good point of staying with the in-laws. Her boyfriend wanted to stay with the mother because she is getting old and also she have Parkinson. Which will need a lot of attention and care as well.
She said that her boyfriends family is all very serious looking and there is no fun nor happy moment in the family. And she is those type of girl that like to he happy most of the time. And yet i don't see any problem with that too. And in fact i think that maybe she can bring laughter to the family. To me, staying with family member is the most important thing, because they won't be there forever. One of the days they will leave you and before you know it or regret about it, they have already left you. I understand that her boyfriend wanted so much to look after his mother and wanted to be there for her since the day her husband left her. I feel that she should be proud to found a guy that care about family this much, because a lot of guys now a days don't even care at all. There are good and bad staying with the in-laws definitely. This i am sure that every woman in this whole world know about it, but what you can do is to compromise with each other. Not just running away from it.
I am so badly affected by her and in another way i care about her too. And what i get in the end is that she say i am too much and that i don't understand her situation. It's not that i don't understand her situation, but just that i don't want her to be single again. It's hard for her to be in a relationship and i have heard enough or breakups from her. I wanted her to be happy and being loved by someone that she loved so much. And just because of all this and give up the one that you loved, i don't think that it's worth it. What i think is that if you really love that someone, then you should stand by his or her side, support him or her and help him or her go through all the tough times together. And also to lead and guide when he or her is in trouble or are lost along the way. That is what i think it should be in a relationship. And definitely communication also plays a very strong part in this because it's the most important things to understand each other and to ind the solution to the problem that arise no matter it's present or in the future.
I have already done what i need to be done as her friend and if she does not want to listen to me, then there is nothing i can do to help her anymore because the decision is all up to her and it's in her hands. She is the only one that can decide how she want her future to be. Either bring alone or stay with her boyfriend. But no matter what, i always hope that she will be happy from the bottom of my heart. I hope that she can come to realize that soon before she do anything stupid. Take care my dear friend...
